Too busy to find love?

Let’s face it, the world we live in is moving at an increasingly fast pace.

There is so much information at our fingertips, we are liable to suffer from information overload! We spend ever longer hours at work, we have to fit in time for exercise, we need to meet up with our  friends, go to church , and of course social media is increasingly taking up more and more of our free time than ever before. Yet we complain that we don’t have time to find love. Is that really true?

If so, then  what is the solution to this modern day conundrum?

The importance of scheduling in time to look for love

We say we want to find someone to ultimately form a serious loving relationship settle down with, and marry, but how are we going to fit this into our already overcrowded lives? Where are we going to make the compromise, will it be less time on Facebook, or perhaps less time at the gym?

Whatever we decide, we have to put things into perspective, truthfully and prayerfully assessing what are the most important things in  our lives at this moment in time. Can some activities take a backseat for now, or certainly have less time devoted to them for a while?

What are your main priorities? This requires some good, hard consideration – if something is important to you, you need to make time for it, or the time just won’t exist! You need to make this a priority in your life. Are you really serious about this? Do you really want to find that special someone or not?

Chances are, they won’t suddenly drop from the sky at your feet, or pop up at the next church event, although that is not outside the realms of possibility, but failing that, common sense dictates that you’re going to have to take some action, yes, the ball is in your court, believe it or not!

You now need to assess the current situation, and take matters in hand!

Are you doing enough to ensure you are maximising your chances of meeting someone, falling in love and getting married?

It is just like when you are looking for a new job, you have to build in time to do this, having determined that this is what you want. Make this an enjoyable project that you have to complete. After all, the outcome could be the start of the next phase of your life! Start to reclaim some of that time you say you don’t have!

This is when using online dating sites comes in handy. Okay, maybe you don’t have lots of time to physically go out, and  find and meet lots and lots of potential dates, but you can set aside allotted time to review potential matches online, and all from the comfort from your sofa, or bed.

Deciding on the sort of person you would like to meet

The first thing you need to do is to draw up a list of the sort of person that you are looking for; you need to be very honest here, but certainly you also need to approach this with an open mind; after all this may have been where you were going wrong before?

Perhaps you could enlist the help of a couple of close friends who you feel really know you, and who would be honest (but not brutal!) in their assessment of you and your personality – they could also help you to write up a scintillating profile that is going to get you noticed for all the right reasons!

How does your profile stack up?

The profile (as well as the right photos of you)  is key here – you don’t want to undersell yourself, but then again, don’t put things that aren’t true! You’ll soon be found out! For example, if you say you like sky diving, is this really true, and would you be prepared to actually do this? A potential dating partner may read this, and be hooked on this fact alone!

Of course, you may have already completed a sky dive for a dare, or for charity….this is a great ice breaker, and will certainly get you noticed, especially if you have posted up the pictures showing you in full flight!

Of course, this may not be your bag, so think about what it is you are passionate about – you may not be an adrenaline junky, so what makes you special? What activities do you engage in that really make you happy? It may be volunteering for the homeless, but whatever it is, this needs to come across clearly in what you have written in your profile, so that the reader can really see your personality come across, as this will be the first thing that they will see, as there will be lots of stiff competition out there!

Once you have drawn up your search criteria, and written up your profile, this should help to make your time online much more effective. If you commute to work by train, perhaps you could use this time to do some searching, or perhaps a couple of lunchtimes a week. What about cutting back on some of your other activities for a while?

When you think about it, you can make time for just about anything when you set your mind to it. Of course you may not meet the love of your life at the first go, so do be patient! They say Rome wasn’t built in a day… so don’t expect miracles, but be persistent!